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WENDY L. WATSON
Wendy L. Watson, Celestial Polygamist wife to Russell M. Nelson.
| Looks like DandC Section 132 is alive and kicking. From the LDS website:
SALT LAKE CITY ? Elder Russell M. Nelson of the Quorum of the Twelve Apostles of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints and Wendy L. Watson were married today in the Salt Lake Temple. This is the second marriage for Elder Nelson and the first for Wendy Watson.
Now Russell has two wives in Mormon heaven.
| Apostle Nelson Plagiarized His New Wife’s Ideas About No Dirty Talk During Sex |
Friday, Apr 7, 2006, at 09:30 AM
Original Author(s): Skeptical
Topic: WENDY L. WATSON -Link To MC Article-
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| Many posts have commented here on Nelson’s April 2006 conference talk in which Nelson counseled that dirty sex during sex was wrong. Many LDS couples may have experienced some guilt as a result of the Lord’s apostle instructing them that such a practice is wrong. Of course, TBMs would assume that Nelson prayed and fasted about his remarks, then received revelation concerning the matter. |
However, such is not the case. His remarks come almost directly from a paper advanced by his new bride, Wendy L. Watson, Ph.D. In a 2001 BYU Sponsored Families under Fire Conference, Dr. Watson delivered a speech entitled: “A Synopsis of God Ordained Marital Intimacy versus Worldly Sex (http://ce.byu.edu/cw/fuf/archives/2001/WatsonWendy.pdf) in which she compared by using columns her characteristics of “God Ordained Marital Intimacy” and “Worldly Sex.” Under each column she brief compared the differences. The short three page synopsis is very telling of her distorted view of sex (a term she abandons for “marital intimacy). Under the God Ordained Marital Intimacy column she lists “eternal” under “Worldly Sex” she lists “erotic”; “exquisite care taken that activities do not to offend the Spirit” versus “if it turns you on, go for it;” “sacred language used” versus “foul language used” This list goes on.
All this from someone who has never been married and presumably has no first hand experience with sexual relations; plagiarized by an apostle and taught as Christ’s doctrine. No wonder, Mormons have sexual hang ups!
| Wendy L. Watson, Ph.D., New Wife Of Apostle Russell Nelson, Has Some Strange Views |
Friday, Apr 7, 2006, at 09:31 AM
Original Author(s): Skeptical
Topic: WENDY L. WATSON -Link To MC Article-
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| Wendy L. Watson, Ph.D., new wife of Apostle Russell Nelson, has some strange views.
In a speech entitled ‘Search Diligently in the Light of Christ” delivered to a women’s conference, Dr. Watson praised the effect of guilt. She stated:
5. The troublesome belief that sounds like this: "My past, which was filled with wrongdoing, predicts and determines my future. I am not worthy to lay hold upon any good thing, let alone every good thing, because I am bad, tainted, unclean, beyond hope!" Does that sound familiar? For far too many women, it does.
(See http://ce.byu.edu/cw/womensconference...) (Italics added for emphasis).
This constraining belief needs to be laid on the altar of repentance. The guilt and grief you feel are a good sign, an indication of your continued goodness, in spite of your sins. Congratulate yourself on still being able to feel guilty! The light is still there! Guilt has had a lot of bad press in the past, yet for most of us, guilt, if used well, is exactly the help most of us need to stop sinning and start toward full repentance.
Let the guilt start you on the path of the sincere, heartfelt, and therefore heart-changing process of laying down your sins, even giving away your sins to know the Lord (Alma 22:18). And as you come to know him, and come unto him, you will also come to know the real you, unshackled and free from your past.
The Savior and your ecclesiastical leaders will lead you along. The Savior really did mean it when he said, "Though your sins be as scarlet, they shall be as white as snow; though they be red like crimson, they shall be as wool" (Isaiah 1:18).
| Are there any positive church talks on physical intimacy in marriage?
What advice do church leaders give youth that help them prepare for sexual intimacy in marriage?
The best I could find was a talk given in the church's 1999 Women's Conference. This teaching borrows heavily from a talk given by Elder Holland that was published in the Ensign.
But what kind of advice is this?
On How to Develop Sexual Intimacy with a Spouse
"A deep and abiding relationship with the Savior is indeed the only way to achieve true intimacy in our relationships with others. And because intimacy requires the involvement of both parties, each person in a truly intimate relationship must have a connection with the Savior, a connection that is strong and vibrant and growing. True intimacy requires that both parties' offerings of love are embedded within an intimate relationship with Him. All else will feel like a sorry substitute."
Advice on Lust and Erotica in Marriage
"I believe that the Lord blesses spouses who love each other purely. I believe He blesses spouses whose passions and appetites have been influenced by the Holy Ghost. We were given the gift of the Holy Ghost for exactly such a time as this. Is it difficult to believe that the Holy Ghost will help you express your love physically? He will. Pray for it."
"As we increase our understandings of these truths, we will never worry that increased purity might decrease our God-given passions. Those natural passions will be increased, purified, and adapted to their lawful use. Spirit-magnified and spirit-purified passion will always be greater than lust. The ability to have our passions magnified, purified, and adapted seems to be something very worthy of prayer or even of fasting."
"As you strive and work with your loved ones for an increasingly intimate relationship that is blessed by the presence of the Spirit, the distinction between the Lord's truth about intimacy and the adversary's lies will become increasingly clear. For truly, if there is anything impure, defiling, of an illicit nature, or obscene, the adversary seeks to generate these things and seeks to convince us that these things are normal, good, and part of intimacy. They are not!
The Importance of Keeping Marital Intimacy Vulgar-free
"When we are seeking increased understanding about physical intimacy, which is so sacred, so powerful, we need wide-angle eternal vision and Spirit-enhanced depth perception. If our understanding of physical intimacy is presently based on a picture that is taken, developed, and framed by none other than the father of all lies himself, our experiences with physical intimacy will be deadly. We must mediate our understanding by the death-defying power in the Savior's atonement."
"Have we been careless? Have we drifted far too much in the direction of the world's view, which is so saturated with Lucifer's lies about physical intimacy? It is indeed time to rise up and be careful! Careful about everything that comes into our hearts, minds, and homes which pertains to physical intimacy. Could the words of the Prophet Joseph Smith apply to how in times past we have carelessly thought about, and talked about, physical intimacy? Joseph said: "How vain and trifling have been our spirits, our conferences, our councils, our meetings, our private as well as public conversations–too low, too mean, too vulgar, too condescending." We must be very careful with our language and our conversations about everything related to this sacred physical endowment."
Cast Out Satan In Order to Increase Intimacy
"We need to be bold in exposing Lucifer and his lies. We need to rise up, and with ever increasing clarity point out his counterfeits, his deceptions, his trickery. I believe that all satanically influenced presentations about physical intimacy should be stamped "More Lies! To protect our minds and hearts, our homes and families from the intrusions of the devil's devices, perhaps we need big, bold warning signs on every book, magazine, videotape, audiotape, TV sitcom, movie, play, and so forth, which is coproduced by the adversary himself. Warning signs that would reveal his works for what they really are: angry protests against God and persistent, power-hungry efforts to obliterate the truth."
What To Do if Your Husband Wants Oral Sex
"Lucifer loves good women and is poised and ready to intrude his lies into good women's lives. He's swift. He's very effective. He knows if he can take down a good woman, he can take down a whole family in one fell swoop. Talk about the economy of Lucifer. The devil's domino effect in action! Sisters, it's time to make certain that Satan does not have a grip on our hearts, minds, homes, and families. If we find any evidence of his blatantly obvious or even his covertly subtle presence, we need to cast him out. We need to do more than just loosen his grip; we need to cast him out so that we can be taught by the Spirit the grand eternal truths about physical intimacy and teach them to our families."
"And what if the person asking you to engage in something defiling is your husband, whom you love? President Boyd K. Packer anticipated this attack on personal purity from within marriage. He counseled: "A married couple may be tempted to introduce things into their relationship which are unworthy. Do not, as the scriptures warn, 'change the natural use into that which is against nature'. If you do, The Tempter will drive a wedge between you." Anything that offends the Spirit will allow The Tempter to drive a wedge between husbands and wives."
How to Have Out-of-this-world Sex
"'I was talked out of my feelings.' Those are the haunting words of a woman whose husband on their wedding night had introduced her to the consummation of their love in a manner that offended her spirit. For years they carried on the illusion of a marriage. That was the best they could do, for a woman who felt numb and a man who felt rejected."
"We, as spirit daughters of heavenly parents, need to ensure that Satan is continually cast out of our hearts, minds, homes, and families. We, as women of Christ, need to forge intimate relationships with others that involve Him. We, as daughters of Eve, need to distinguish good from evil and partake of physical intimacy only within the sacred ordinance of marriage. And as we do we will co-create intimate relationships that are truly out of this world!"
- "Personal Purity and Intimacy" by Sister Wendy Watson, 1999 Women's Conference
What kind of sexual intimacy does this advice really create?
| The Not Even Once Club is a new children's book by Wendy (Watson) Nelson (who is married to Russell M. Nelson as his Celestial polygamist wife) about a group of kids who form a club where they pledge to never break the commandments, Not Even Once.
I think a book like that might be okay (if a little didactic) if it was a heartwarming story about kids with good intentions to do the right thing all the time but who inevitably fall short, because we all do, and learn a little something along the way about forgiveness, grace and the power of the cross.
But nope, it's apparently just a story about choosing to never break the commandments and only hanging out with other kids who do, and it even comes with a certificate your kids can sign to join the club by pledging to never break the word of wisdom, lie, cheat, steal, do drugs, bully, dress immodestly, break the law of chastity or look at pornography. NOT EVEN ONCE.
There was a recent post about it over at Wheat and Tares (See: http://www.wheatandtares.org/12621/pl...) but that post deals more with the psychological and sociological problems with making commitments like that, rather than the basic incompatibility of The Not Even Once Club with the gospel. (EDIT: there's now a follow-up, cross-posted at Wheat and Tares and Rational Faiths that does address gospel issues more directly.)
The Bible is incredibly clear that we all sin, "for all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God." Because we are fallen people in a fallen world and heirs to a sinful nature, a promise to never break God's commandments is a promise that we will invariably break. We are hard-coded to break God's commandments, and we absolutely lack the power on our own to do anything about it. Personal perfection projects like the Not Even Once Club, whether we attempt them as little kids or as adults, get us off on the wrong foot from the very start. Are the kids in the Not Even Once Club really going to never break the "law of chastity," not even once? What about when they hit puberty and their brains are flushed with hormones? They're going to be able to never entertain lustful thoughts? Really?
How is the Not Even Once Club good news? "Good news, if you manage to never sin, you can be part of the club!" "Good news, if you manage to never sin, you can go to heaven!" That's not good news for sinners like you and me. That's really bad news. I'll admit that I haven't read The Not Even Once Club, and I'd love to be wrong about it (by all means, tell me if I am!), but everything I have read about it and everything I know about Mormonism leads me to believe that the book is nothing less than a false gospel aimed at children. I am confident that Wendy Nelson has good intentions, but they're not enough.
The Good News is that we don't have to join the Not Even Once Club, because we get to join a far better club. Despite our corrupted natures and our inborn tendency to sin, we are declared to be in the right with God, right now, by virtue of Jesus Christ. Not because we managed to never sin (no matter who we are, that ship has always already sailed-we literally can't help it), but because he did. Through God's grace we are given the ability to respond to God's grace and submit to the reign of Jesus. He makes us good. We don't.
We don't have to worry about qualifying for the Not Even Once Club because we get to be a part of the Kingdom of Heaven. I promise you it is way better.
| Not Even Once - Not Even Twice - Not Even A Mormon Church Sponsored Walking Pornography Advertisement |
Monday, Sep 9, 2013, at 08:07 AM
Original Author(s): Infymus
Topic: WENDY L. WATSON -Link To MC Article-
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| Wendy Watson Comparing God-Ordained Marital Intimacy With Worldy Sex |
Tuesday, Sep 10, 2013, at 12:29 PM
Original Author(s): Hasa Diga Eebowai
Topic: WENDY L. WATSON -Link To MC Article-
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| Wendy's book "Not Even Once" seems like a terrible idea. Saying that this is coming from the woman who came up with the following list comparing God-Ordained Marital Intimacy with Worldy Sex. |
God-Ordained Marital Intimacy
Helps put off the natural man
Under the influence of the Spirit
Involves Spirit-enhanced passions
Soulful union is the goal
Involves a husband and a wife
Sanctioned following legal and lawful marriage
Blessed by the Lord
Fun and exciting, joyful, delightful, comforting, loving, calming, and sustaining
Enlightens and enlivens spirits
Prayer, fasting, scripture reading, gratitude often involved
Honors men and women
The body is the great prize of mortal life
The greater the union of lives, the greater the intimate experience
Embedded in truths
Involves anything that brings spouses’ spirits to life and invites the Spirit
A grand and glorious experience that will continue eternally for covenant-keeping couples
Unites the bodies and the spirits of a husband and a wife
Exquisite care taken that activities don’t offend the Spirit
Brings forth loving desires that fulfill
Spouses feel more like a couple, more loved, more appreciated, and more cared for following
Personal revelation encouraged
Is partaken of
Private and sacred
Brings you wisdom, light and love
Unites spouses and is built on unity
Invites other loving, caring and supportive behaviors outside bedroom
Sacred language used
Keeps commandments and covenants
Increases the ability to keep and honor all commandments and covenants
Is commanded and commended by the Lord
Involves pure, natural passions
Is the foundation of endless worlds
Accommodates the natural man
Under the influence of the world and adversary
Involves carnal, sensual, devilish passions
Sexual union is the goal
Involves all permutations and combinations of men, women, even children
Very politically correct
Fun and exciting momentarily, demoralizing and depressing later
Alcohol and drugs often involved
Degrades men and women
The body is a plaything
No union of lives, only bodies
Filled with lies
Involves any and all forms of sexual gratification
A total obsession; men and women wish they could have sex forever
Involves any two bodies
If it “turns you on,” go for it!
Stirs up lustful desires that are never satisfied
Individuals feels used, abused, more lonely after
Ravages and eventually ruins lives
Is participated in
Seen and discussed everywhere
Dulls your senses and sensibilities
Not related to what happens outside bedroom
Foul language used
Breaks commandments and covenants
Increases the likelihood of breaking other
commandments and covenants
Is rejected by the Lord
Involves impure, unnatural passions
Supports an entire commercial industry
Watson, Wendy L. Purity and Passion: Spiritual Truths About Intimacy That Will Strengthen
Your Marriage. Salt Lake City: Bookcraft, 2001, 179–182.
The hand out that this was taken from is cached from the BYU website here.
This was written while she was a legally single woman at BYU and apparently influenced Elder Nelson's talk on keeping dirty talk out of the bedroom after he married her. I don't know what she means by "Very politically correct", but I'll have to try that some time. I also wonder what "Sacred language" she suggests people use. She appears to be a few beers short of a six-pack and I pity anyone who took her family course at BYU. She also says that there is "No union of lives, only bodies" and since we know there was no cohabitation with Joseph Smith and his plural wives we can safely come to the conclusion that it was worldly sex.
It's obvious that the Church "Supports an entire commercial industry" of useless books written by clueless spouses and family members of general authorities.
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